Sunday, November 14, 2010

~~~~Courtesy Is All That Matters~~~~

Courtesy is a simple act but somehow many people refuse to exercise good manners and politeness. It can simply mean that they are either selfish or rude, maybe both.

Adults who are supposed to show this model behavior to kids are the ones who need some education on being considerate.

If you want to have a successful marriage, develop great relationships with your clients, friends and coworkers, you must practice good manners. If you care about how your kids grow up and behave towards others, you should set the correct example and become a role model. Kids behave according to what they see in adults especially those they look up to.

If you want to know your true colors, notice your behavior when you are among strangers. A courteous person is not one who has to sacrifice her own needs to make someone else happy. It is also not about trying to meet the social needs or the norm although that is expected.

It's actually a trait that adds to your character and identity. Wouldn't it give you a great feeling to know that you are an eloquent person from you speech and behavior? Can you imagine how others will react to you and the kind of openings you are allowing yourself to experience? Don't you think that would help make you feel worthy?

Many people want respect from others but they won't give it. And being well mannered is one of the simplest acts to attain that.

"Courtesy is a science of the highest importance. It is opening a door that we may derive instruction from the example of others, and at the same time enabling us to benefit them by our example, if there be anything in our character worthy of imitation." - Michel De Montaigne 

A List of Good Manners
  • Saying "Please" and "Thank you." 
  • Smile. If it comes from your heart, it can really brighten up someone's solemn day.
  • Listening attentively. If you are careless about it, you will waste more time and energy in trying to mend misunderstandings.
  • Assisting the disabled or weak in simple ways like helping them cross the road, opening doors or offering your seats.
  • Giving compliments, offering kind words and delivering polite gestures.
  • Controlling and managing your moods and temper.
  • Chewing your food with your mouth closed.
  • Switching off your mobile phone in cinemas and during meetings.
  • Apologizing for your mistakes and when you keep people waiting.
  • Not to spit in public places.
  • Cover your mouth with a tissue or handkerchief when you sneeze or cough.

There are many more that you can think of. If courtesy is your way of life and being considerate and polite are your natural tendencies, you don't have to think much about it. You'll just be. It's up to you to choose how you will act. Your choice will affect the quality of your relationship and your life. 


Wednesday, October 13, 2010

A reminder to myself..

Do you pray five times a day on time?  If not, do start InsyaALLAH..

According to a hadith narrated by Mu’adz ibn Jabal (may ALLAH be pleased with him), the Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) said:

“Shall I not tell you of the head of the whole matter and its pillar and top?” I (Mu’adz) said, “Yes, O Messenger of ALLAH.” He said, “The head of the matter is Islam, its pillar is prayer and its top is jihad.”

(Narrated by al-Tirmidzi, 2616; classified as sahih by al-Albani in Sahih al-Tirmidzi, 2110)


1. ALLAH created us so we can worship Him Alone.

"I have only created jinns and humans to worship Me. I do not need from them to provide for Me, and I do not need from them to feed Me. ALLAH is surely the One Who gives providence, and He is the Mighty and Strong." (Az-Zariyat: 56-58)

2. Praying 5 times a day is fard (obligatory)

It is second in status to the Shahaadatayn (twin testimony of faith) as further proof of the soundness of a person’s belief and as visible evidence of the beliefs that reside in the heart.

The Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) said:

“Islam is built on five (pillars): the testimony that there is no god but ALLAH and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger, establishing prayer, paying zakah, fasting Ramadhan, and performing pilgrimage to the House.”

(Narrated by al-Bukhari, 8; Muslim, 16)

Establishing prayer means performing prayer in full with all its words and actions, at the appointed times, as it says in the Qur’an:

"And when you have completed the prayer, remember ALLAH standing, sitting, or [lying] on your sides. But when you become secure, re-establish (regular) prayer. Indeed, prayer has been decreed upon the believers a decree of specified times." (An-Nisa' : 103)

3. Prayer occupies a special position among other acts of worship because of the way in which it was enjoined.

It was not brought down to earth by an angel, rather ALLAH wanted to bless His Messenger Muhammad (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) by taking him up to heaven and addressing him directly concerning the obligation of prayer. This is something that is unique to prayer among all the rituals of Islam.

Prayer was enjoined on the night of the Mi’raj (Prophet’s ascent to heaven), approximately three years before the Hijrah.

Fifty prayers (per day) were enjoined at first, then the number was reduced to five, but the reward of fifty remains. This is indicative of ALLAH’s love of prayer and its great status.

4. ALLAH erases sins by means of prayer. 

Abu Hurairah narrated that the Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) said – and in the hadith of Bakar it is narrated that he heard the Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) say:

“What do you think if there was a river by the door of any one of you and he bathed in it five times a day, would there be any trace of dirt left on him?”They said, “No trace of dirt would be left on him.” He said, “That is like the five daily prayers, by means of which ALLAH erases sin.”

(Al-Bukhari (528) and Muslim (667))

5. Prayer is the last part of religion to be lost, and if it is lost the whole religion is lost.

It was narrated that Jabir ibn ‘Abd-Allah (may ALLAH be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) said:

“Between a man and shirk (associating others with ALLAH) and kufr (disbelief) there stands his giving up prayer.”

(Narrated by Muslim, 82)

Hence the Muslim should be keen to perform the prayers on time, and not be lazy or take the matter lightly. ALLAH Says:

“So woe unto those performers of Solah (prayers) (hypocrites),Those who delay their Solah (prayer from their stated fixed times)” (Al-Ma’un :4-5)

And ALLAH warns those who cause their prayers to be lost by saying:

“Then, there has succeeded them a posterity who have given up As-Solah (the prayers) [i.e. made their Solah (prayers) to be lost, either by not offering them or by not offering them perfectly or by not offering them in their proper fixed times] and have followed lusts. So they will be thrown in Hell”  (Maryam :59)

6. Prayer is the first thing for which a person will be brought to account on the Day of Resurrection.

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah (may ALLAH be pleased with him) said: I heard the Messenger of ALLAH (peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon him) say:

“The first deed for which a person will be brought to account on the Day of Resurrection will be his prayer. If it is good then he will have prospered and succeeded, but if it is bad then he will be doomed and have lost. If anything is lacking from his obligatory prayers, the Lord will say, ‘Look and see whether My slave did any voluntary prayers, and make up the shortfall in his obligatory prayers from that.’ Then all his deeds will be dealt with likewise.”

(Narrated by al-Nasa’ie, 465; al-Tirmidzi, 413. Classed as sahih by al-Albani in Sahih al-Jaami’, 2573)

We ask ALLAH for his Guidance us to the Right Path.. InsyaALLAH.. Ameen..

Reference: Al-Solah by Dr. al-Tayyaar, p. 16; Tawdih al-Ahkam by al-Bassam, 1/371; Tarikh Mashru’iyyat al-Solah by al-Balooshi, p. 31.

Strive against yourself and the whispers of the Shaytaan.. and pray five times a day on time.. InsyaALLAH..

Friday, September 24, 2010

I Want To Change The world

There are many people talking about changing the world but it is impossible. They may talk just a minute but then they won’t get involve on that. It is not i am a pessimistic person. The person who said about change he/ she himself changed in their life in many ways. within a fraction of minute so many changes happening we couldn’t stop. so for me changing will come only after the disaster of this world otherwise it won’t/...

i want to change the world like everyone does. i want save those in poverty and make them regain their rights. i don't think we are better then them just because we live in fancy houses like some people do. i want to rid the people of the world who harm civilians under the name of religion and help. i want everyone in this world to have a memorable lifetime and to be proud to live rather then struggle through it waiting for death. i want to look at my world in my dying breath and be proud of it and not to see violence and poverty but freedom of thought and body.

I look around my people and see tears streaming down the eyes of many
I look at the Palestine child and though there may be external smiles… I see a more deep feeling inside
I turn my head in another direction and I see refugees…I see those who hunger and thirst
I see my fellow men who have nothing to eat neither drink…Engulfed completely by poverty
My heart is pained and my strength begins to fail me
I feel the pain of those who beg on the streets and yet, get nothing to go home with
I feel the pain of those who get treated unjustly, those who get punished for crimes they didn’t commit
Those who seem to have what it takes to be there yet do not have that one person or that one thing to turn things around
Those who cry day after day and night after night
Those who feel they have no reason to live, no reason to live life to the fullest
Those who have never heard the true sound of laughter nor really felt the aura of joy
Those who have lost hope in HOPE
People who have lost everything that ever mattered to them…those who have been drained from within
........I feel their pain
I look at myself and right beside me is my fellow man begging for alms under the sun
Suddenly, all my wealth,my achievements,my successes disgust me…and all I own loses it’s value
I actually own nothing.
I vow to all who get bruised by harsh actions,injustice,poverty,diseases…...
Till I can no longer think for myself, I’ll keep turning the steering wheel right round…
And I can’t do it on my own… Almighty one, be infront of me to lead me
Behind me to guide me, beside me to accompany me, and within me to fill me with what I need to carry on.


Wednesday, September 22, 2010

~if today was my Last day~

Assalamualaikum and greetings to everyone, My name is Nurul Aini Binti Sahardin. Today I wish to convey title if today is my last day. When you talk only about this topic, we must wonder what will we do and what will happen to us if this happens. I will share all, if today is my last day of what I do.

First of all, what would I have to do is to apologize to all my contacts, family members and all I know. I may have hurt their heart or their feelings throughout my Offensive with them.

Second, I will be obedient children once my parents. Throughout my life with my family, I always default on the order of the parents. Sometimes I would fight their speech that they offended by my actions. Although I do a lot of offense to them, I hope they forgive me. I hope that day I could perform my duty well as a son to them. At least, at the time they are happy with me.

Finally, I will do the prayer of repentance, tahjud and all the commands of Allah SWT. As a slave, I spend a lot of crime and the default order. I hope God will forgive me and put me among the servants who Soleha nearby. After three things I can do on the last day of my life. I accept if this is my final day.

Sunday, September 19, 2010

~iF tODAy iS mY laST dAy~


As the title given to me "if today is my last day", it is right to the situation now, where we just finished celebrating the eid fitri celebration. There may be some of us have visit beloved person those who have leave before us. These necessarily remind us about how short our life is. Since everyone will go one day, it is compulsory to us to keep remind about our death. If today is my last day, there is no way to redo whatever I've done, but in the here and now I can do things right. I will try to become the best child to my parent, a good sister to my siblings and being the best to all around me. I will try forgiving and forgetting and letting go of the past so I can be sure if my life soon comes to an end the memory I lived and the love I gave will be enough to last. I'm trying to say all the things I've always wanted to say a and giving kindness to everyone. If I know today is my last day, I’ll told everyone I love how much they mean in every way and telling them all just knowing them means so much. As a Muslim, I want to be a true Muslim with done the rituals of circumcision, such as charitable donations as much as I can and so will I do as well as practices such as prayers and the prayers of repentance tahjud that I must not be neglected. If this is my last day in this world, I've forgiven everyone every single wrong to another. Indeed human sin will not be removed if we do not apologize publicly. That’s all from me.

Salam to everybody


Saturday, September 18, 2010

Ten Tips to Get Unstuck and Moving Forward By ~شمسول بن مختار~

"Around here we don’t look backwards for very long. We keep moving forward, opening up new doors and doing new things". – Walt Disney 

    Life can hit hard. Sometimes you get knocked down when you don’t even see it coming. Some are cheap shots, some are glancing blows and some can bring you to your knees. When this happens, it’s not about how hard you get hit; it’s about how hard you can get hit, but still find the strength to keep moving forward. It’s about having the will to continue in spite of the obstacles.

What’s holding you back? A relationship breakup, job stress, or health issue can stop you from moving forward in life…but there are ways to get unstuck! These ten tips for succeeding despite yourself are inspired by quotations from one of the most successful businesswomen in America: Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics.
“Don’t limit yourself,” said Mary Kay Ash. “Many women limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.”
What you think you can do — what you focus on — will become reality! You don’t need special equipment or a lot of money to succeed in life…but you do need some basic tools. Read Simple Acts of Moving Forward: 60 Suggestions for Getting Unstuck for practical ways to let go of whatever is holding you back. And, check out these ten ways to get unstuck…
10 Ways to Get Unstuck and Move Forward – Mary Kay Ash
1. Figure out what’s holding you backMaybe you’re depressed because of a business failure, health issue, financial problem, or relationship breakup. Or, maybe you can’t seem to improve your self-confidence or maintain a happy, positive mood.  The first step to lgetting unstuck is to identify what’s stopping you from moving forward.
2. Be objective about sources and solutions. Whatever the source of your rut is,remember that there are ways to overcome it! Different problems have different solutions, but there are some general rules for getting unstuck. For instance, don’t focus on what you lack (eg, someone to love, or a business of your own). Instead, focus on what you want more of in your life (love, success, acceptance, freedom). Be specific about what you want, and try not to get caught up in negative or critical emotions. Take a step back and look at your life with objective eyes.
3. Look for the possibilities in your problems. In Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell writes, “Sometimes constraints actually create success. Not being able to swim made me run. And running taught me the discipline I needed as a writer.” What are you learning from the obstacles in your life? Are your problems — job stress, relationship breakups – leading you in an unexpected direction? The sooner you accept the lessons, the faster you’ll overcome your obstacles and move forward in life.
4. Work with your personal advantages. I’m a big fan of “to do” lists and I love checking off each task when I accomplish it. That’s one of my personal advantages, and I use it to make my business successful. For instance, one of my goals is to earn $50,000 a year as a blogger. Part of achieving that goal involves writing two blog posts a day. To stay motivated to write every day, I make a list of the blog posts I need to write at the beginning of each week…and the satisfaction of checking off those “articles to write” makes me feel happy and motivated enough to do it again and again and again! What are your strengths or personal advantages? Put them to work for you.

5. Ask for help moving forward in life. What do you need to do to get unstuck? Ask your family, friends, and colleagues for help. Do you need financial advice? Time? Resources? Motivation? Support? Be specific about what you need, identify who can help you, and be clear about what you’d like them to do. Mary Kay Ash said, “Honesty is the cornerstone of all success, without which confidence and ability to perform shall cease to exist.” Be honest about what you need.

6. Surround yourself with successful women. Who do you admire? Which family member, friend, or colleague is in the position you’d like to be in? To soak up the habits of highly succesful women, stay connected to women who achieved their goals — even if you don’t know them personally, even if they aren’t alive! The attitudes, values, habits, and thoughts of women who soar will rub off on you. Also, stay away from people who hold you back or aren’t supportive.
7. Focus on one step at a time. If your number one goal is to start your own homebased business, don’t move towards a competing goal. For instance, you can’t put all your energy towards working from home while you’re planning a vacation that involves traveling around the world for a year! You can’t move ahead in two directions at once. Focus on “unsticking yourself” from one thing at a time. “So many women just don’t know how great they really are,” said Mary Kay Ash. “They come to us all vogue outside and vague on the inside.” Be concrete and specific about what you want out of life, and how you’ll get it.
8. Expect to do a little work. Bill Gates programmed computers at university for 10,000 hours before he started his own company. Gates is one of the most successful entrepreneurs in recent history (perhaps of all time) — but he spent10,000 hours practicing before he took the leap! That’s 416 days of working around the clock. This tip for letting go of what’s holding you back is from Malcolm Gladwell’sOutliers, and involves practicing your craft. “…[successful people]…simply put in more hours than anyone else,” writes Gladwell.
9. Stay  connected to yourself. No matter how you’re planning on getting unstuck, stay open to revising as you go. For instance, you may decide to stop focusing on moving forward in your relationship, and start focusing on moving ahead in your career. That’s okay! Take your nose off the grindstone every so often…look around…and make sure you’re still on the right track. Let yourself make revisions whenever you need.
10. Help other women move forward their lives. When you encourage, educate, and connect with other women, you increase your own dedication, determination, and self-discipline! You feel good about yourself, which increases your motivation and gives you the self-confidence you need to move forward in lifeIt feels great to help women move towards their dreams, and it’s good karma!
“Those who are blessed with the most talent don’t necessarily outperform everyone else,” said Mary Kay Ash. “It’s the women with follow-through who excel.”


Thursday, September 16, 2010

The Importance of Being Earnest

To be successful in business, you need to have a serious attitude and a keen interest and high self-esteem "

1) You must have a serious attitude.
• Attitudes to strive earnestly to do a job is a good attitude. Someone who wants to be an entrepreneur must have the interest, desire and passion to the high and unwavering. Without these elements, perhaps success is not expected to be achieved.

For example, if a person gets promoted to 'A' in the exam does not mean he will get 'A' in all things. If we see a successful entrepreneur, may they not of those who get promoted to 'A' in the examination. But they are comprised of people who love to take risks and will do anything to survive. They learn from experience and take risks. Without a strong interest in, dedication, patience and piety, entrepreneurs will not have success.

2) You must have self-confidence.
• In addition to the interest and enthusiasm, creativity and also be there in person. It must be nurtured with a responsible attitude, a spirit of determination, strong faith and open-minded and positive. Entrepreneu rs are a special person, they were the brave and willing to face the hardships faced challenging business world. Thus, an entrepreneur should not hesitate to make a decision when managing a business. What is important, there should be coherence in decision-making to ensure the integrity of the business. Every decision made has the potential risks faced, but not too thinks. Entrepreneurs have to deal with it and it's up to yourself how to solve them.

3) Manage the organization and operations is essential.
• Manage the organization and operation of the important things that need to be given special attention. For example, the management of cash flow (cash flow) is important because it symbolized as the nucleus of the human body. If cash flow is not managed in a sound, the company will become chaotic and eventually collapse. Thus, each entrepreneur must ensure that the cash flow they are in a solid.

4) Respect must be given and not asked.
• An entrepreneur needs to know in detail about the affairs of running their business. This can be achieved if they had knowledge and experience as both are essential to put an entrepreneur at a higher level of its employees and competitors. According to him, respect must be given and not asked, and entrepreneurs will only get it through science. If knowledge is not available here, the entrepreneur must try to find another place or get it from people who are more experienced.

5) Learn what to do about how to manage business operations.
• Focus on how a business should be conducted. Entrepreneurs need to define the mission and vision of themselves and their company. Preferred to focus on how to handle a business problem that arises. Do not be optimistic to something you like but learn about all the things to take care of business with excellence.

6) Learn from mistakes.
• There are no perfect people in this world. Errors that arise to teach people to improve themselves in order to develop a weakness of our mind to be more creative in solving problems. Make a 'post mortem', experimental error has occurred and do not repeat the mistake. In addition, attitudes need to set aside ego and acknowledge that mistakes have occurred. If errors are not corrected and then repeated, can not be sure of success will be achieved.

7) Be a responsible leader.
• Make YAB Tun Dr Mahathir Mohamed, former Prime Minister of Malaysia as a respected mentor to us. A leader must have a good image to be respected by those leaders and their competitors. A leader must also have extensive knowledge and experience of management and operations of the company and its competitors. All this is necessary for someone to achieve success in business, God Willing.

By Mohd Zulfadhli Bin Saufi